My Personality

Dreamy Idealist
Dreamy Idealists are very cautious and therefore often appear shy and reserved to others. They share their rich emotional life and their passionate convictions with very few people. But one would be very much mistaken to judge them to be cool and reserved. They have a pronounced inner system of values and clear, honourable principles for which they are willing to sacrifice a great deal. Joan of Arc or Sir Galahad would have been good examples of this personality type. Dreamy Idealists are always at great pains to improve the world. They can be very considerate towards others and do a lot to support them and stand up for them. They are interested in their fellow beings, attentive and generous towards them. Once their enthusiasm for an issue or person is aroused, they can become tireless fighters.

For Dreamy Idealists, practical things are not really so important. They only busy themselves with mundane everyday demands when absolutely necessary. They tend to live according to the motto “the genius controls the chaos” - which is normally the case so that they often have a very successful academic career. They are less interested in details; they prefer to look at something as a whole. This means that they still have a good overview even when things start to become hectic. However, as a result, it can occasionally happen that Dreamy Idealists overlook something important. As they are very peace-loving, they tend not to openly show their dissatisfaction or annoyance but to bottle it up. Assertiveness is not one of their strong points; they hate conflicts and competition. Dreamy Idealists prefer to motivate others with their amicable and enthusiastic nature. Whoever has them as superior will never have to complain about not being given enough praise.

As at work, Dreamy Idealists are helpful and loyal friends and partners, persons of integrity. Obligations are absolutely sacred to them. The feelings of others are important to them and they love making other people happy. They are satisfied with just a small circle of friends; their need for social contact is not very marked as they also need a lot of time to themselves. Superfluous small talk is not their thing. If one wishes to be friends with them or have a relationship with them, one would have to share their world of thought and be willing to participate in profound discussions. If you manage that you will be rewarded with an exceptionally intensive, rich partnership. Due to their high demands on themselves and others, this personality type tends however to sometimes overload the relationship with romantic and idealistic ideas to such an extent that the partner feels overtaxed or inferior. Dreamy Idealists do not fall in love head over heels but when they do fall in love they want this to be a great, eternal love.

Adjectives which describe your type: introverted, theoretical, emotional, spontaneous, idealistic, dreamy, effusive, pleasant, reserved, friendly, passionate, loyal, perfectionist, helpful, creative, composed, curious, obstinate, with integrity, willing to make sacrifices, romantic, cautious, shy, peace-loving, vulnerable, sensitive, communicative, imaginative

As a Dreamy Idealist I am one of the introverted personality types. Therefore I prefer a quiet work environment where I can intensively deal with my responsibilities and are not disturbed by too many people and repeated distractions. I need a lot of time to dwell on my thoughts, to put them into words, and let my ideas take shape.
I am grateful for a certain measure of order and structure because they secure the time to achieve this so I can deal with one task after the other and not have to juggle a number of responsibilities at once - I don’t like that because it is important to me to deal with things thoroughly. My capability to concentrate is unusually great and very often I become engrossed in something and forget everything around me - even to eat and drink.

Nevertheless, because I am very adaptable, congenial and interested in harmony and cooperation, I enjoy working together with others. A neighborhood that requires the ability to assert myself and where direct confrontations are the order of the day is not my optimal environment. In order to permit me to fully develop my ability I need an environment that is as stress free as possible. If I can’t get that I soon suffer, because I take critique and negative feedback very personally.

I enjoy the opportunity for exchanges with other people I value and whose capabilities I respect but in this case remember the motto: Better less than more; better a few “hand picked” colleagues who truly move on my wavelength. It is best when I share the same high ideals and important objectives and together can fight for the same good cause because then I am truly in my element. If that is not the case, I do better by largely working by myself because I belong to the personality types who can do that very well and don’t necessarily have to depend on others in order to come up with good results.

These special aptitudes predestine me for all working environments where the issue is conceptualizing, problem solving and developing new ideas. I am very creative and well able to go beyond the paradigm and choose original and unusual ways that no one before I even dreamt about. Even in complex situations, and facing difficult tasks, I confidently keep track because I am good at intuitively understanding the entire picture and extrapolating improved opportunities and development potential. My sense for detail and the practical is less developed which occasionally leads to somehow chaotic operating methods and pretty lax contact with what I see as “bean counting.”

Fantasies, dreams, and ideals, play an important role in my life. In my heart, I carry visions of a better world where the wolf plays with the lamb, and the creeks carry milk and honey. Naturally, this also applies to the subject of love. I am absolutely convinced that my perfect other half with whom I can merge into the perfect oneness, exists somewhere in this world. I am obviously aware that this extraordinary gift won’t just land in my lap, but I am willing to wait for a long time and sacrifice a lot, if necessary, to reach this vital goal. “Per aspera ad astra,” or “Through the night to the light,” is my motto.

As all Idealists, I tend to raise my chosen partner up on a sky-high pedestal - especially at the beginning of a relationship. Essentially, I have excellent insight into human nature but when I am in love, I obviously throw all of that out the window. That can be the only explanation why I am not able to see even the smallest blemish on this person. “Idealizing” does not even begin to describe this process, „idolizing“ is probably closer to the truth. All the way up there on that pedestal, my partner is probably already getting dizzy and asking himself what he has done to deserve this unconditional adoration in the first place. But then, who would not like to see him self mirrored as the perfect person in the eyes of a loving other?

On the other hand, it is a real challenge to meet my ideal of love and romance in everyday life. Sooner or later, I am going to be disappointed to find out that I haven’t gotten a hold of  a superman, but just a normal person with all the inherent strengths and weaknesses. Now the question is, can I love my partner as he is and not as I would like for him to be?

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